Christmas

Why do people dislike this holiday so much. Maybe its because us as parents feel pressured ti buy gifts and that its okay and necessary to go into debt due to the " needs" of the kids these days. I would almost bet that 75% of children don't even know the importance and full meaning of christmas. I am guilty for buying my kids the things they want this year I have felt a little guilty. Guilty for spending the money on things for my kids and not truely enjoying this time a year for the right reasons. Its been a rough year esp for my oldest. She hasn't been allowed to have any electronics since april of last year including but not limited too her phone and ipod fb etc. Now I find myself sitting her nervous to allow her such amenities back. Rounding the new year, I am hoping for things to continue to go good. I did get her an ipod as her big gift. I am thinking I will make a contract and allow her to have this on a probationary period. I don't want to set her up for failure. Giving her a ipod allows her to go onto the internet and sites that worry me. I know at some point tho that I need to be able trust that the things I have been teaching her is enough for her to learn and act appropriate while given such freedoms. Any ideas on how to go about letting her have and use her ipod. I did talk to her probation officer and she agreed that maybe allow her to check the ipod in and out and gradually allow her to use it all the time. I am so scared this is going to back fire on me. 50% nurture 50% nature. Sigh.