Proud!

We had the best christmas ever. It was a big difference from last year. She was grateful and very happy with everything she got. Today is one year from the day of her first admission to Kingswood. I am so proud to call her my daughter. She is growing into a remarkable young lady. And she is just a joy to be around. Now dong get me wrong she def acts like an 11 yr old but I look at friends with same age kids and they seem to be beginning the mess I just got out of .....just with establishing power and who is the boss ......

Babygirl...

My baby girl is doing sooo good in school....in life...she is actually taking from her experiences and is making changes accordingly. Her report card is finally full of c's and b'day instead of her last report card which was failing every grade. She just wrote her father this note and I am proud to say she wrote it with all good intentions ....messed up part is her dad will probably be upset within her. :( it saddens me to think that he is just going to stay this way. They love him and only Alyssa right now sees her dads priorities and where they stand with him :(

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Homeschool vs. Headstart!

So this year as I have said before has been one long year full of lessons learned and behavior changes for all of us. I enrolled my child into headstart in September. Now my girl homeschools her kids and her kids are sooooo smart. Anyone could pretend to homeschool but to take the time ( which it does take up a vast amount of time) to teach your kids about school and life in general takes a great deal of patience and concentration. I commend her for the wonderful job she has done with all she has done not only for her kids but for her friends kids. Now back to the issues I am having. I never really thought about homeschooling til this year when I realized how jacked up headstart is. State funding just isn't there so I am noticing all the things they are taking away from the kids. Why do they have to hide letters of the week. Or the lame h.w they send home each week! Which not to mention is against the rules. H.w isn't for preschoolers. But I do better , more educational work daily with my son without the dumb play with your kid h.w they send home.
Now another issue. The so called teachers they have is a joke. As of right now you don't need a bachelors to teach in headstart. Now as much crap the state gives parents about keeping up on paper work in order to keep my child enrolled. I thought there were teachers trained in schooling. Young children. I went to the parent meeting and found out that after the new year they are letting everyone go that doesn't have a bachelors in teaching. THANK GOD. But I feel that this should have been implemented a long time ago.
Now homeschool I have really started considering. I mean my girl said she is willing to homeschoolmy son and I am seriously weighing the pros and cons. Can't really think of a bad reason to not except I know my sons dad will prolly not want to comply. He is very closed minded. I keep seeing it on the news the charter schools being doubled for parents to have more of a choice. The need to have a good teacher as a role model in your childs life is of great importance. If it is okay for headstart teachers to teach your child with no degree...( mind you parents assume that the ppl taking care of your child has a specialized degree allowing them to teach ur child) if I had to choose right now at least I would know the person homeschooling my child. Its no different than sending him to a charter school. Except the teacher I would know personally and I wouldn't have to worry about it literally being just a place to learn to socialize
Sigh. Decisions decisions!

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Christmas

Why do people dislike this holiday so much. Maybe its because us as parents feel pressured ti buy gifts and that its okay and necessary to go into debt due to the " needs" of the kids these days. I would almost bet that 75% of children don't even know the importance and full meaning of christmas. I am guilty for buying my kids the things they want this year I have felt a little guilty. Guilty for spending the money on things for my kids and not truely enjoying this time a year for the right reasons. Its been a rough year esp for my oldest. She hasn't been allowed to have any electronics since april of last year including but not limited too her phone and ipod fb etc. Now I find myself sitting her nervous to allow her such amenities back. Rounding the new year, I am hoping for things to continue to go good. I did get her an ipod as her big gift. I am thinking I will make a contract and allow her to have this on a probationary period. I don't want to set her up for failure. Giving her a ipod allows her to go onto the internet and sites that worry me. I know at some point tho that I need to be able trust that the things I have been teaching her is enough for her to learn and act appropriate while given such freedoms. Any ideas on how to go about letting her have and use her ipod. I did talk to her probation officer and she agreed that maybe allow her to check the ipod in and out and gradually allow her to use it all the time. I am so scared this is going to back fire on me. 50% nurture 50% nature. Sigh.

Proud mother

I am so proud of my children. Especially my oldest. She has made so much progress in the last few months. She is understanding that mom means business. My way or no way. I have learned to be patient with her. She isn't just a defiant child she actually has a chemical imbalance. I never thought there would be a time where I reflect upon this last year and understand why this yr happened the way it did. Two months ago I couldn't we'd the light but lyss has totally changed her tune and decided to work hard on being a good girl. She is the love of my life. I had her young we grew up together for the most part. This year I lost an entire family as a friendship but some how I feel like it was what was best. I now have surrounded myself with ppl that actually care and wont throw judgmental slurrs when mad. So I will end this saying I love my babies so much.

No matter what....

No matter what happens from day to day family tiffs arguments memorable moments...sad moments...and the moments when u think you can't take anymore.....all of it don't compare to the feeling you get whenever you make those ppl in your life smile. Or how about when your so mad at one if your kids and in the middle of it all your child makes u smile....u can't help it. That is family. We are a team. We have learned the boundaries of eachothers privacy and personal space. It doesn't matter how bad it seems at certain times if your family is one unit...a team you are bound to come out on top. That doesn't come without hard work though. Everything in life comes with hard work and time management. You can't sit back and do nothing and expect ur kids to grow into proper citizens of the community. Just as we look upto certain ppl when growing up...and throughout life so does our children. The catch is you must teach them the right kind of ppl and or peers they should allow to influence them. Being a parent is the hardest job anyone can have. So why is it parents think just sitting back will be enough. Nothing in life is given to you easy. It kills me to see ppl just ignore what signs are right in front of them. I am proof of a person uncertain as to how to raise a child. I shall say I used to be. I had to learn the hard way. And when I say hard I mean unbelievably hard. Kiss your babies...hold them tight and take the time and enjoy them daily b.c before you know it they aren't babies anymore.

My favorite three ppl in the whole wide world.

I love these crazy fools....